WHY MEN HAVE BECAME WEAKER

In the 21st century, men have learned to shower daily, care for their bright smiles, and even earn enough to flaunt impressive accessories, trying to appear ambitious and successful. Yet, the issue of responsibility still tops women’s list of grievances in relationships.

Modern parenting increasingly encourages boys to express emotions and feelings, traits traditionally seen as more feminine. As a result, men are growing up more vulnerable to psychological stress when they enter the workforce and start families. Women often ask, “How can we make them develop and become better?” is the question that most often worries women. However, the answer is quite simple: men need to see the logical and straightforward meaning of changing for the better and feel the benefit of this transformation and the fight against irresponsibility, which women so hate, and at the same time inertia, sloppiness, selfishness, and 999 other vices will bring them.

“How can we explain the benefits of positive change to emotionally sensitive and somewhat selfish men?” – this is how you should ask the question, ladies.

Women carry and give birth to children. They don’t want to hear (even if it’s unspoken) things like, “You make more money than me, so I’ll just stay home with the kids,” or “Let’s split the bills 50/50.” Women often tolerate such situations out of sheer necessity, driven by a deep desire to provide for their children, not because they want to hear excuses about why their man can’t earn more. This discontent builds over time and can lead to disastrous consequences if steps aren’t taken to address and overcome these feelings.

If you divide all the bills equally, then be kind enough to divide all the housework and childcare equally. If a woman has to work a lot, then why does she need you, the capricious child man? It is much easier for her to live alone without being irritated by your egoism and irresponsibility.

Women, especially those who already have children, realize the need for mental and spiritual growth much faster than men. It’s ingrained in our genes, proven by the history of human development—women are mentally and physically more mindful and clean. Motherhood not only awakens the instinct to protect and care but also brings the intuitive realization that a woman’s emotional state directly affects her child and family. This awareness drives women to seek harmony, balance, and an understanding of how their mental and spiritual health impacts everyone around them. Men, on the other hand, tend to brush these matters off, indifferent to what women think of their level of responsibility. From their perspective, they’ve already done plenty (they know themselves best, LOL). Bringing home a paycheck? Not cheating? Not drinking too much? That’s enough to love them (in their opinion)! And if he pays attention to the kids and gives her wife a massage once a month, she should call him her hero and forgive all his weaknesses and shortcomings in the relationship and household chores.

Unlike men, when women become mothers, they often bear a double burden—responsibility for both the child’s physical well-being and their emotional and psychological growth. This leads women to dive deeper into their emotions, fears, and beliefs. They understand that to raise an emotionally healthy child, they must first be emotionally stable and spiritually develop themselves. This process of self-exploration often becomes a catalyst for personal growth, driving women to seek ways for mental and spiritual development.

Men, however, lacking such a close biological and emotional connection with the child, might not feel this bond as intensely. Therefore, they don’t understand women in this regard. A man’s internal motivation for mental and spiritual growth may awaken more slowly and often requires a severe external stimulus—crisis situations, conflicts, or someone’s strong influence. However, when a man notices how his partner’s mental and spiritual growth positively transforms her and makes her more independent, he may start to see the value of engaging in this process himself, especially if he doesn’t want to lose her one day.

This is where the woman’s role as a wise and sensitive guiding force becomes crucial. Instead of imposing her views or demanding changes from her partner, it’s better to lead him to awareness gently. A woman in harmony with herself radiates calm and confidence, inspiring a man to pursue personal growth and development much faster. When a man sees that his partner remains emotionally stable and spiritually balanced despite all challenges, he begins to value her more and adjusts to her mental and spiritual needs, striving to develop alongside her to reach new levels of a strong relationship and well-being.

A man must accept the idea that growth doesn’t mean weakness by following a woman’s lead—it means strength in listening to the wise partner the universe has sent him, through whom the universe is trying to reach his soul.

It makes no sense to divide strengths and weaknesses by gender. Both men and women have their strengths, but often, their worldviews don’t align, creating a disconnect in relationships. The real question is whether you’ll work to find compromises and common ground or eventually stop communicating altogether.

Every soul follows its own path of spiritual development. In the end, ladies, if you feel wiser and more responsible, be honest with yourselves—don’t hold double standards. You love yourselves for your wisdom and responsibility but you do not show the same wisdom and responsibility towards men. After all, wisdom lies in helping those around you grow and become better, regardless of gender. Elevating your wisdom above others (even if only mentally and unconsciously) is no better than being irresponsible. So, let’s each focus on ourselves. If you demand mental transformation, demand it from yourself first, and together, find joy in each other’s company. As all ancient teachings and religions remind us, no one owes anything to anyone except for mutual love.